There comes a day when you meet someone that changes your life. They give you butterflies everytime they touch you. You crave eachother. Its easy and fun going through life hand in hand through the years.

What happens when it’s not new anymore?

When it’s time to show your flaws and they realize your not perfect either?

When money, jobs, life and expectations fall short?

When you start to question if this is even right or if its time to move on?

The fact of it is that the structure of a solid relationship needs to be nutured from all sides. If your building a home, the electrician needs to do his job before the drywall can be put up. If the electrician doesn’t show up, the building process will halt. And if its halted long enough, the investment depreciates. Thats kind of how a healthy relationship works. The give and the take must be mutual and timely to continue to complete the build.

There must be an understanding that this cannot be a one sided commitment. Both need to be all in or all out.

Phases of life are constantly changing and there come times to re-adapt. Sometimes these new phases can trigger old personal traumas, unbeknownst to your partner. This misunderstanding can be repetitive & detrimental if it goes unrecognized. Don’t let it! Say it with me .. communication.

Keeping your issues hidden is not healthy! You’ll find yourself laying with your head upon a tear soaked pillow and feeling the wetness on your cheek as you lie awake not knowing how to say something. Meanwhile the one who doesn’t share your unrest sleeps soundly on the other side of the bed. You just try to stay far enough away to avoid that gut wrenching feeling if your feet accidently touch.

Your partner cannot read your mind and if your triggered, it needs to be an open conversation. Sometimes it’s easier to have hard conversations over text messages or in a note. You can get out everything you need to say without interruption or shameful looks.

Release the words from your mind in a way that your partner can understand them. Let it be heard! If you want to stop living on edge, be honest. Make sure your just as understanding when they come to you with hard feelings too. You are in this life together because you choose to be!

In love, there isn’t one thing other than loyalty that has greater impact than simply communicating your feelings.

Love isn’t about trying to be everything the other person expects you to be all the time. Its about supporting eachother & sharing life experiences good and bad. Be real with eachother, especially when its hard. It will make your bond that much stronger.