In a moment, a day, a life time.. you face a TON of feelings.  Various things happen during your days that will cause an emotional reaction .. big or small.. but a reaction none the less.  Some days you may even notice that you serve a different reaction than you previously had to the same situation.  This can be normal since outside circumstances impact emotional responses and maybe your just having a bad day – or a good day!  It is important to understand the value of properly expressing your feelings to get the best outcome for your life.

Initial Response

Before reacting negatively to a situation you should always wait until you’ve processed a thought. Stop and consider the source.  Is this person/problem worth my energy? Will this situation largely impact my life or be permanent? Is something or someone influencing this situation with malice, stupidity or neglect? What can make this better?

It is super easy to jump right into feelings of anger,  jealousy, and sadness.   These feelings provide a sense of protecting oneself.  It’s a lie though.. hiding behind a make believe shield doesn’t keep you from the pain.  It just denies you the relief of processing it.  If you don’t handle situations at face value they will haunt you.

When something undesirable comes about, your initial reaction may come as a negative one and that is ok.. walk away if you have to. A delayed reaction is better than one that will cause more harm than good.  Even when it’s difficult those negative feelings should be set aside to turn it around to seeking solutions. Its important to actively work on a mindset that is geared toward solutions. It doesn’t change facts to overreact so WHATS NEXT!?

Deal With It!

I’m not saying to stone face and have no feelings.  That is just unreasonable. However,  it is important to know you can’t live in those feelings. Feel them and chin up to what’s next.  Change can be good and things happen for a reason.  CHOOSE to be stronger for your trials and tribulations rather then letting it beat you down. Warriors aren’t built in training, they are built in battle.  Remember how big this world is and that your possibilities are endless no matter how small you feel right now. 

Be brave in your daily decisions but make good choices. I believe in the saying: “Do no harm, but take no shit”.  Life doesn’t always go as planned but everything you do and don’t do will have an impact.  Your response to whatever bS stands in front of you is what you need to pride yourself in. The sooner you learn to accept things for what they are and keep moving forward, the easier it will be to navigate through life.  Another saying that I love is “give less f▪︎cks.” Some people and things aren’t worth thr energy.  Focusing on positive things in life and working for better outcomes may just show you a perspective you’ve been missing.

Recognition

Make absolutely sure that after you rationally handle a tough situation, that you recognize how good you did. Remaining calm and thinking with a level head instead of being lost in emotion will change your life.  Controlling hard feelings doesn’t happen overnight but everytime you choose the better path, celebrate that win!  Taking baby steps is still better than standing still.  Work on your reactions and LOVE yourself for the strength your growing. It all works out if you believe it will.  The best plan you can make in life is to be a good person and let karma do its thing!